Suicide Prevention in Christian Communities: Breaking Stigma, Offering Hope, and Healing

September is Suicide Awareness Month, a time dedicated to shedding light on one of the most difficult, yet crucial conversations that our communities must have- suicide prevention. Suicide affects many lives, leaving behind grieving loved ones and unresolved pain. Yet, so many myths, misconceptions, and stigmas continue to surround the topic of Suicide, preventing people from seeking the help they desperately need. 

As Christians, we are called to bear one another's burdens (Galatians 6:2), and this includes walking alongside those who may be struggling with suicidal thoughts. Read this blog to break the stigma and the myths surrounding suicide in our communities.

Understanding the Myths: What Suicide is Not

A major obstacle to preventing suicide is the prevalence of harmful myths and misconceptions. By understanding the reality of Suicide, we can better offer support and compassion to those in need.

Myth #1: "People who talk about suicide won't really do it."

This myth is incredibly dangerous because it minimizes the warning signs someone might be giving. Often, people contemplating Suicide might give verbal cues or mention feelings of hopelessness. According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, talking about suicide or wanting to die is one of the most significant warning signs that someone might be seriously considering it.

In fact, most people who are suicidal don't necessarily want to die- they want their pain to end. When someone mentions suicide, it's critical to take them seriously and listen to what they are saying. Brushing off these cries for help could lead to missed opportunities for intervention.

Myth #2: "Once someone decides to die by suicide, nothing can stop them."

While someone contemplating suicide may feel trapped and hopeless, this does not mean that their fate is sealed. Mental health treatments, therapeutic interventions, and the presence of caring, supportive individuals can make a huge difference. People can and do recover from suicidal ideation with the proper support and resources.

It's crucial to create a space of hope and understanding that recovery is possible, even when it feels out of reach for the person struggling.

Myth #3:" Suicide happens without warning."

Contrary to this common belief, most people who die by suicide exhibit warning signs beforehand. These signs may include talking about death, withdrawing from friends and family, increased use of substances, reckless behaviors, and sudden mood changes. Sometimes, the warning signs can be subtle, but being attentive and having an open dialogue can make a significant difference.

Myth #4:" Suicide only affects certain groups of people."

Suicide is a universal issue. It affects people of all races, ages, economic backgrounds, and faiths. While some populations may be at a higher risk due to factors like mental illness, substance abuse, or life stressors, suicide does not discriminate. In the Christian community, there can sometimes be a stigma attached to mental health issues, which can prevent people from seeking the help they need. Recognizing that anyone can struggle with suicidal thoughts is a step toward creating a more compassionate and supportive environment.

What Does the Bible Say about Suicide?

The Bible contains stories of people who experienced deep despair and hopelessness and even took their own lives. While these stories might not always be highlighted in church teachings, they offer important lessons about the depth of human suffering- and the importance of God's mercy, grace, and intervention.

1. Saul (1 Samuel 31:4-5)

King Saul, after losing a battle to the Philistines and facing the imminent threat of capture and torture, took his own life by falling on his sword. His armor-bearer, seeing Saul's fate, did the same.

Saul's story illustrates how despair can take root in times of overwhelming defeat and shame. It also shows us how societal pressures—fear of humiliation or failure—can lead individuals to feel that their circumstances are beyond repair.

2. Samson (Judges 16:29-30)

Samson, who was captured by the Philistines after his betrayal, asked God for strength to destroy the temple where he was being held, killing himself along with his enemies. While Samson's final act was framed as one of vengeance against his enemies, it was also a suicidal action driven by a sense of hopelessness after losing his strength and purpose.

3. Judas Iscariot (Matthew 27:3-5)

After betraying Jesus, Judas Iscariot was overwhelmed with guilt and regret. Unable to bear the weight of his actions, he hanged himself. Judas' story is a somber reminder of the crippling effect of guilt and shame. Rather than seeking forgiveness or redemption, Judas succumbed to despair.

These biblical examples show us that even those who walk closely with God can struggle with despair and hopelessness. However, they also offer an opportunity for us to reflect on how God is present in our lowest moments and how seeking Him, along with support from our community.

Supporting Someone Experiencing Suicidal Thoughts

Knowing how to support someone experiencing suicidal thoughts can feel overwhelming, but it is an essential part of suicide prevention. 

Listen without Judgement

One of the most important things you can do is listen. When someone is sharing their feelings of hopelessness or despair, it's crucial to create a space where they feel heard and validated. Avoid minimizing their feelings or offering platitudes like, "It'll get better" or "Just pray more." While these statements may come from a place of love, they can unintentionally dismiss the person's pain.

Instead, offer empathy and understanding by saying things like, "I can see how much you're struggling" or "I'm here  for you, no matter what."

Encourage Professional Help

As much as you want to help, remember that you are not a professional therapist or counselor (unless you are one, of course!). Encourage the person to seek professional help. This might include seeing a therapist, contacting a suicide hotline, or talking to a doctor about medication if needed.

You can offer to help them find resources or even accompany them to their first appointment if that makes them feel more comfortable.

Remove Immediate Means

Suppose someone is in immediate danger of suicide. In that case, it's essential to reduce their access to how they could harm themselves. This could mean removing weapons, medications, or other dangerous items from their environment. While this is not a long-term solution, it can be crucial in preventing an impulsive decision.

Check-In Regularly

People experiencing suicidal thoughts often feel isolated and alone. Regular check-ins- whether through phone calls, texts, or in-person visits- can provide them with a sense of connection and remind them that they are not alone in their struggle.

Pray with Them and for Them

As Christians, we believe in the power of prayer. While we should always encourage professional help, we can also come alongside someone in prayer. Pray for their peace, healing, and strength, and remind them of God's deep love for them.

Psalm 34:18 says, "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." We can hold onto this promise, knowing that God is with those suffering and longs to bring them comfort and hope.

Suicide Awareness Month is more than just an opportunity to raise awareness- it's a call to action. Suicide is a complex and painful topic, but silence only perpetuates the stigma and shame. As Christians, we are called to be Christ's hands and feet, reaching out to those in pain and despair. We are also called to bring light into the darkest places, offering hope, love, and support to those in need. By educating ourselves, dispelling myths, and actively supporting those in our communities, we can help save lives and remind people of the hope found in Christ. 

If you or someone you know is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please don’t hesitate to reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or text HOME to 741741. To speak with a Christian Counselor, please visit faithonthejourney.org.

About Author

Kassidy Pierre is an advocate for mental health wellness and self-care. She graduated from Capital University with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and a Master of Arts in Counseling Education. She is currently pursuing a Ph.D. in Counseling and Psychological Studies with a concentration in Human Services Counseling at Regent University. She has five years of experience in the mental health field as a mental health specialist and four in education as a school counselor. Her passion heavily focuses on integrating faith with mental health, especially within the African American community.